Inspired by John Wiswell’s “Notes to my younger self“.
First off, I know you’re not going to listen. You’re going to wonder who this crazy woman is, one of those ‘cheerfully positive’ type people you think are silly beyond belief, but I hope you hear me out.
Those crushes you had back in high school? It’s a good thing they ignored you. You’ll have far more fun going to grad with your friends, and not with a date. You won’t miss out on much. High school is horrible for most people. You’re going to have a blast in university.
It is ok to ask for help. You’ll waste a lot less time retaking classes if you learn this lesson now. It may look hopeless, but you’ll figure it out! You are smart, don’t ever think otherwise. You WILL turn things around.
Sometimes you have to say no. You don’t have to do everything and run yourself into the ground. Nervous breakdowns are NOT normal. Tell someone! You don’t have to keep up with the dancing practices if you hate them. On the other hand, if you do, you’ll end up with great posture.
It is ok to cry. I know you try to hide it, and your parents don’t know how to handle that, but its OK to have strong feelings about things. You’re human. P.S. They’re not going to change.
One day you’re actually going to like dresses and high heels. Aghast? Trust me. The only reason you hate it now is because you have to wear a uniform.
Men are not all pigs, you probably think so now, but it’s high school. Trust me. There are some really good ones out there. You’ll meet a couple of them really soon.
Oh, and don’t stop reading, and don’t stop dreaming. You’ll be ready to write that book you’ve always wanted to write when you’ve done a little bit more living.
You’ve still got some dark days to come, but there are happy days ahead too, kid. Just keep at it the way you are. That stubbornness will take you places. Oh, and take a chance on that funny, bearded guy on the train. It’s going to be worth so much more than that 5 Euro phone card you’re going to need to call him. Just saying.